Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Did anyone cry for Larry

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there. I do not sleep …
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die.
These words are part of a memorial to Larry King
Larry King is the boy on the right in this picture the killer is the boy in the left

Why are we here, do humans just exist and are we creating our own destruction? I think Mirrorboy was asking these questions in his most recent post and he quite rightly he pointed out some of the horrors we humans have created and normally I would answer his thoughts in a comment but I thought maybe I would try to express some of my feelings through a post today. I’m not going to address all his thoughts today just those that deal with religions.

My first thought is that we humans have created everything and there is some debate among his commentators on whether man created God or God created us but I ask that does that really matter. Because at the essence of all religions is a message of love and peace, you will not find hate in their teaching directly.

Religions and I used to belong to one, can do good things for mankind but I agree religions are used by many to subvert our own kind and to control others. Do the Mormons and others send missionaries out to better their church or to help others, it’s a bit of both I believe. Religions must grow and convert people to their beliefs its their goal and they justify through their good works. It’s as Mirrorboy points to they are trying to be number one also. Why would it matter to a religion if people believed or not in God as long as they believed in the religion.

And are you a better person because you don’t believe in god, belong to a religion or have faith in anything other then that today exists? I don’t think so either. I am not sure religion or the lack there of it describes why we kill and harm each other. But for all the horror in today’s world there are good things going on and I ask you Mirrorboy and some of you others expressing doubts and concerns to have some faith in humanity.

The words above are form Larry’s website it’s a memorial of his short life. Larry, while you may not of heard of him his death while tragic was not as valued as others. He appears to have been a sweet little boy who had a passion for dressing in female attire and heels. He never ran from his tormentors. Apparently the defendant has claimed what drove him over the edge was Larry’s Valentine card to him. Larry had no qualms about asking his classmates out or asking for their love.

Larry’s young life was brought to an end by another child named McInerney, a classmate who apparently told others that “We should jump him,” after Larry called McInerney “baby” during the days prior to the murder. McInerney told another student that he did not like Larry because Larry was gay and dressed like a girl, and that he and his friends were going to jump Larry and “shank” him. In the end McInerney shot Larry in the head and was arrested.

Larry killer’s was also a fan of Hitler and all things Nazi, and yes humans created that empire also, but who was ever there for Larry’s killer, for I don’t think its religion alone responsible for the killers of this world. A boy of 15 didn’t become this way on his own. McInerney, someone I have to believe taught him to hate or didn’t care enough about him to teach him not to hate. He is on trial today as an adult for the shooting of Larry, and it’s sad to see two young lives wasted here.

And its just not Larry, this week in NY another human was found guilty of killing someone because he was different. Moses was born a man but preferred to live as a woman. Green, who was born Moses Cannon but began living as a woman at age 16, frequently dressed in women's clothing but was wearing jeans and a T-shirt the night she was killed. His life wasn’t worth much to his killer; several witnesses said they heard his killer refer to Moses as a "faggot" just before Moses was shot. Moses was only 22 and she had no chance in this life it appears, because of the hate we humans have created.

Balanced against these two stories is the story of another child who had no chance in life. His story is much different as a nation cried for him. He met prime ministers and billionaires. He I have read was a person of faith. But he had faith in the same humans, Liam Fiarhurst, after he had been diagnosed with cancer said, “I’m going to donate the money I raise to CLIC Sargent. They’re a charity that helps families who’ve got children with cancer and leukemia. Liam died this June and he was only 14, taken by cancer something as cruel as the two killers above. I’m not sure its as bad as Mirrorboy makes humanity to be; sure we have problems, but for the millions he points out we spend on weapons and killing; its also true one little boy raised hundreds of thousands of dollars for the good of others.

Mirrorboy points out we are all chasing something a better job, a fancier car, a better life through money, and I’m not sure its wrong to try and improve your self. I worked hard to get where I’m at in life and I don’t owe anyone anything. I don’t think its wrong to be successful, what might be wrong it what you do with your success or in Liam’s case his fame.

If you Google Liam, Larry or Moses names, pages of information and stories will appear. Its just such a shame that everyone cried for Liam and few have cried for Larry and Moses. I don’t think anyone’s life is worth less than another’s, I don’t think children should be killers, and I don’t think we are on the right path in our societies if a child who died from cancer is celebrated (and rightly so) but children who are killed through ignorant hate are simply ignored by the greater society.

Should we be spending those millions on machines, which kill, or should we spending our monies on research for cancer and education for tolerance. And is society ever going to be tolerant of those of us who are different from the norm? It is us humans who have the capacity for love and hate after all we are just continuing the past as it was one before us, when will it ever end.

If you have time please visit the links to Larry and Liam they were remarkable persons few ever got to know and they both died neither having a chance in life but at least one of them should still be with us today. I’m not asking you to cry for Larry but maybe recognize he was here with us and that his life and his hopes were every bit as valuable as Liam’s.

Before leaving I would like to say good bye to a couple of our fellow bloggers Jayson, the Night Rider, who I have the pleasure of coming to know he says he is taking a break and to my good friend Courage, who has decided to stop blogging, I’m just sad to see you go and I wish you the greatest success, I will miss you both.

As always thanks for reading, take care and be safe


Wednesday, July 22, 2009

So Here's the Deal

I have been gone it seems a long time but really I have just been lost in my world out there again, people can be such assholes when there is money on the table, if you weren't aware of that. Been working on a cse that just doesn"t pass the smell test with most people.

A few months ago a good friend introduced me to a client, they coach some youth sports together and I quickly learned that his father had died. It seems that a few years ago his father inherited a bit of money and the woman he was living with before he died has it all.

She had lived with his dad for 20 years or so and was the reason his parents divorced in the first place, but she decided to keep all the money save 20K she gave each son and was content to leave it that way.

Okay so there is a Will by the way and it does leave her 60% of the Estate and 40% going to my clients (the other son is my client also). Their dad drafted the Will a couple of years ago right after he inherited the monies. To cut to the chase my client's deserve about 100K a piece. A trial scheduled in less than ten days and tomorrow I am taking a deposition of this nice old lady she is over sixty but twenty years younger than my client’s father.

She got control of the funds in the last two weeks of his life when she was added as a joint account holder. He was dying of cancer and of course he paid all the bills. Did I mention she was in such a rush to get the monies she actually tried to have the priest administering last rights marry her and their dad, before he passed. She was added according to my client's so she could continue to pay those expenses.

Now I don’t want to disparage this kind old woman but tomorrow I have to ask her some questions and find out why she would betray the wishes of a man she claimed to love. She was appointed the executor of the estate by their father and that is what we are trying to prevent.

We want a court ordered Administrator who will reclaim the monies she has converted from the Estate. I know I sound confident but the Court has already order the nice old lady to freeze all of these funds. And the Judge wouldn’t have done that without reason; in fact the judge suggested settling before a trial occurred. So this and some other work is what has been keeping me from the blogs too much lately.

Lost another relative since my last post, some what more distant to me but as always a funeral is a sad place to be. Sadness was also brought to me by the Jake Anon discontinuing his blogging, and I had just got the dam link fixed. Jake Anon has been a good friend to me and I wish him well down under.

And if you are wondering if I represented the little old lady, yea I could do that but it would be a settlement negotiation trying to get the boys to take less than their share based on some theory and stalling, I know I'm not always proud of what I do, but I would never go to trial with her position.

Let me know if you think my clients deserve what their father left in them in the Will or not.

Ok and I have to thank all my new followers James, who has been around for a long time and whose blog I enjoy greatly, Callen, he is a fairly new blogger so give him some support and if you can, Stanley, a young guy from cali who is taking a break but hey a few new followers and who knows, Shane, he is just starting out here in life and the blogging world and he is a real nice guy who just graduated college , WKBoy714, is a young UK blogger, who is also a new, he has a name but you need to talk to him on MSN to get it.

I would also like to introduce yo all to a few new bloggers I have linked

Jason, another young guy from Cali whose blog is Carwin’s Closet

Tyler, a young Canadian is Another Cog in the Murder Machine

I will try to post more regularly after tomorrow, all my work is nearly done for the trial so I can even make some comments again :).

Thanks for reading, take care and be safe


Friday, July 3, 2009

150 years of Hate, Indians and Fireworks

Happy Fourth of July! Living in Massachusetts celebrating the Fourth is a special event as it was here where the “Indians” threw the Boston tea party, the massacre unraveled on our streets, the first shots of the revolution were fired nearby, “don’t shoot till you see the whites of their eyes” was uttered during the fight which came to be known as the battle of Bunker Hill, Paul Revere of riding fame also put the copper plating on old Ironsides (USS Constitution) our most famous war ship still commissioned and residing in one of our harbors, we also began public education, and other rights and freedoms all americans enjoy have their origins traced to Massachusetts.

Fireworks may have begun in America with the Declaration of Independence and while the document is in truth a list of grievances against a tyrannical king it did contain the thoughts below from which so many freedoms in this country and others have been born from. The Massachusetts’s courts that I work in have a long history of protecting the freedoms of ours; from the British soldiers accused of firing upon civilians to granting gay marriage. A couple of days ago 150 years of hate were wiped out as some freedoms were given to our friends in India by their courts. But over 225 years ago our for fathers were struggling with out courts to gain freedoms and came up with the Declaration to voice their thoughts.

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. — That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, — That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government …”

Thomas Jefferson in writing these words allowed people to believe that we are all equal and deserve to pursue a life we choose on our terms without restriction or less rights then anyone else. He points out that Government and the laws they create and made by men and when they are improper it’s up to the people to ensure the right thing is done. The Declaration of Independence’s most famous signature is arguably John Hancock, not that the Boston merchant was anymore important; it’s just that his signature is the largest and most bold, some what like the spirit of Masachusetts.

Massachusetts has continued social progression in America, as it was the first state to authorized gay marriage. Marriage in America is regulated by the states and here in 2003 the Massachusetts Supreme Court said the following:

The question before us is whether, consistent with the Massachusetts Constitution, the Commonwealth may deny the protections, benefits, and obligations conferred by civil marriage to two individuals of the same sex who wish to marry. We conclude that it may not. The Massachusetts Constitution affirms the dignity and equality of all individuals. It forbids the creation of second class citizens. In reaching our conclusion we have given full deference to the arguments made by the Commonwealth. But it has failed to identify any constitutionality adequate reason for denying civil marriage to same-sex couples. We are mindful that our decision marks a change in the history of our marriage law. Many people hold deep-seated religious, moral, and ethical convictions that marriage should be limited to the union of one man and one woman, and that homosexual conduct is immoral. Many hold equally strong religious, moral, and ethical convictions that same-sex couples are entitled to be married, and that homosexual persons should be treated no differently than their heterosexual neighbors. Neither view answers the question before us. Our concern is with the Massachusetts Constitution as a charter of governance for every person properly within its reach. "Our obligation is to define the liberty of all, not to mandate our own moral code."

More of our states are coming to the same conclusions and recognizing that we deserve to be allowed to live, enjoy and prosper. We may see a day when Thomas Jefferson’s words have meaning for all Americans including us in the GLBT community. On July 2, 2009 in Delhi the highest Court of India struck down laws created to make homosexual activity illegal and criminal.

“This ruling to overturn Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code should go a long way to help reduce stigma and widespread discrimination against gay and lesbian individuals living in India as consensual sexual behavior—and possible related discrimination—will no longer be protected by, or codified into law,” said Dr. Chinkholal Thangsing, Asia Pacific Bureau Chief, AHF Global.

There are still over 80 countries in this world where engaging in gay sex is criminal but at least India has seen the light. Freedoms and rights only come when people act and lasting freedoms come from our Courts. People in a democracy may not like the rulings but they are accepted by those who believe that our freedoms are precious

A few new bloggers I have noticed or met are:

Loneli bi boy whose blog is I got a boner is a 16 old teen from the states;

S whose blog is Enjoy the Journey an 18 year old college student;

Mikeyboy whose blog is Milkin Mikey is also student from the states.

If you have some time check out there blogs and as always thanks for reading, i hope you enjoy your families, bbq's. the fireworks and of course our freedoms.

Take care and be safe